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Featured Guest: Savvy Ladies on Poweredup Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Linda Franklin May 21, 2013 3pm PST on Toginet.com

Posted by mvoice on May 21, 2013 in Uncategorized |

Savvy Ladies was founded in 2003 and has helped over 10,000 women on their path towards financial freedom. Savvy Ladies teaches women about personal finances in an authentic way that encourages them to take control of their financial future. With Savvy Ladies’ education, women learn how to make proactive choices about their finances, identify their life goals, and move toward a more rich and rewarding life. Savvy Ladies provides seminars, webinars, workshops, and hotlines that encourage networking amongst women, and create a secure forum for women to ask financially-related questions. Savvy Ladies is not associated with another organization and provides unbiased education about personal finances.

Financial instability is a gender-wide problem; one that is not specific to geography, culture, or even economic background. Many women are raised to believe they do not need to take care of their own finances. Numerous studies, however, indicate that living without financial awareness leaves women particularly vulnerable regardless of marital status. An Allianz Life Insurance Company survey revealed that 90% of women feel somewhat or not at all financially secure. Almost half the women in the study said they have a fear of losing all their money and becoming a homeless bag lady.

Savvy Ladies is committed to changing these statistics. With the help of Savvy Ladies, women start making educated and individual choices about money. They learn the importance of financial planning so they can protect themselves against economic hardship and proactively build a stable future to ensure a rewarding and productive life for themselves and their families.

 

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

 

Click here to listen now:  POWERDUPTALKRADIO

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Featured Guest: Erin Morgart on Poweredup Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Linda Franklin May 7, 2013 3pm PST on Toginet.com

Posted by mvoice on May 7, 2013 in Uncategorized |

erin morgartErin Morgart is a lifelong exercise addict that relishes pain and loves to dish it out to others, especially men.

She is a CEO who knows how to balance a spreadsheet, can bake cookies and can inamake grown men cry when they have to do pushups.

She is a fitness model and actress who wants to someday take over the world.

No feat is too small for her and she plans on using her degrees from Harvard Med and The Citadel to accomplish this.

Fluent in four languages, Erin can chew out anyone in French, Italian and Latin.

Mrs. Galaxy Virginia 2012 is ready to kickbox her way to any title.

She always wins.

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

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Featured Guest: Lisa Kamen on Poweredup Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Linda Franklin April 30, 2013 3pm PST on Toginet.com

Posted by mvoice on April 30, 2013 in Uncategorized |
Lisa Kamen on powered up talk radio

Lisa Kamen on powered up talk radio

Lisa Cypers Kamen of the Harvesting Happiness Company is internationally recognized as an acclaimed documentary filmmaker, positive psychology life coach, devoted philanthropist, author, radio and television talk show host, renowned happiness expert, public speaker and mother of two children. As an expert in her field, Ms. Kamen educates both private and public audiences on building and rebuilding foundations for happiness in the face of personal trauma, maintaining new-found happiness in various environments and expanding personal development Lisa has also regularly contributed to publications and blogs such as Military Spouse Magazine, Positively Positive, Inspire Me Today, Huffington Post, and Rizzarr.

As a well-respected philanthropist, Ms. Kamen works with the Salus Foundation to benefit the SulaxamiSchool for Girls in Lucknow, India.  After extensive training at the University of Santa Monica and the Center for Deployment Psychology, Ms. Kamen began the Harvesting Happiness for Heroes organization.  Harvesting Happiness For Heroes® is 501 (c)(3) Nonprofit organization which aids post combat military veterans and their families in rebuilding a foundation for happiness through Post Traumatic Stress Disorder therapy.  HH4Heroes offers personalized reintegration coaching techniques for soldiers and caregivers in need.

Ms. Kamen currently resides in Southern California.

Please view the Harvesting Happiness Company Directory to discover more information about Ms. Kamen’s world- acclaimed workshops, life changing film projects, insightful writing, guest appearances, international philanthropic projects and radio and television programming.

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

 

Click here to listen now:  POWERDUPTALKRADIO

 

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Featured Guest: Lou Paget on Poweredup Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Linda Franklin April 23, 2013 3pm PST on Toginet.com

Posted by mvoice on April 22, 2013 in Uncategorized |
Featured Guest: Lou Paget on Poweredup Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Linda Franklin April 23, 2013 3pm PST on Toginet.com

Featured Guest: Lou Paget on Poweredup Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Linda Franklin April 23, 2013 3pm PST on Toginet.com

Lou Paget is a certified AASECT* sex educator and grassroots researcher whose quest for accurate, practical information for herself has created a highly successful international seminar and product company with a focus on lifestyle and cultural trends that impact our sexuality, health, and relationships. Paget began organizing her Los Angeles-based women’s focus groups on sexuality and health in the early ’90s.

What she didn’t anticipate was that her small, informal discussion groups would explode into some of the most popular and revolutionary sexual forums both nationally and internationally.

Lou Paget has single-handedly given the arena of sexual education and information a more accessible and honest attitude. Her corporation’s name, Frankly Speaking, Inc., is inspired by an acronym for the principles she values most in sexual education: Freedom, Respect, Accuracy, Non-judgmental, Knowledge.

Lou’ Paget’s one-hour television special on the WE Network, MAKING LOVE HAPPEN WITH LOU PAGET will premiere on Tuesday, August 1st. Her 5th book, HOT MAMAS: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO STAYING SEXY THROUGHOUT YOUR PREGNANCY AND THE MONTHS BEYOND released with Gotham Press, January 2005. Lou Paget has been busy in all other media as well. Her extensive media list can be found here.

As she continues her quest for information in the field of relationships, Paget has been prominetly featured in the HBO program REAL SEX, and the massively successful British documentary SEX TIPS FOR GIRLS. Equally respected by her peers in the fields of sexuality research, she regularly presents at national and international professional conferences. Paget is also expanding into different seminar markets, taking advantage of more international marketing opportunities, developing product lines of adult novelties that work, and expanding her broad media collaborations.

With her trademark calm, fearless intelligence, Paget delivers the core essence of information about intimacy. As an international  bestselling author of FIVE books, translated into TWENTY-SIX languages, and represented in over SIXTY countries with over THREE million copies sold, it is clear that global audiences are hungry for Paget’s expertise. When it comes to intimacy and sexuality, Paget says, “Common sense isn’t all that commonly practiced but we all want it.”

* American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

To learn more about Lou Paget go to www.loupaget.com.

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

 

Click here to listen now:  POWERDUPTALKRADIO

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Bouncing with Style: Reverse Forgiveness by Sandra Beck

Posted by mvoice on March 27, 2013 in Uncategorized |

by Sandra Beck

One of the things that strikes me on a weekly basis is how I can in one week forgive my ex-husband for his cheating and abandonment of me and then the next week I’m back to hating his guts and those of Bozo his mistress. Am I bitter? You bet. Angry? Totally. Able to let it go and move on….not so much.

What I have found with forgiveness is that it’s not really a one-shot deal. Now sometimes it’s because the original sin is aggravated. When my ex gave my child’s mother’s day card made in his kindergarten class to his mistress I wanted to rip his and her heads off. I went into this crazy mommy spiral thinking how could Bozo as a mother accept that card? It created a litany of personal wrongs that whipped my non-forgiving spirit into full force. I got all caught up in a tangle of withdrawn forgiveness for my ex, for Bozo and for myself because it most scenarios there’s more than one thing to forgive and one person. It’s hard just to forgive like rain off an umbrella all the individual betrayals that make up an affair. And when one forgiveness is challenged, it can cause a whole hailstorm of memories that require forgiveness.

But sometimes, without apparent warning, reverse forgiveness just hits you. I hear this from my friends who were in long term marriages and relationships and their partner cheated on them and left. It affects both men and women. The cheating is bad enough but then to be left with your hat in hand is like salt in a paper cut. Many report the same things as I am expressing to you. There are good days and bad days with respect to forgiveness.

Forgiveness is an ongoing struggle – like laying off the potato chips. It’s awfully tempting to relax into bitterness. It’s quite frankly a whole lot easier being bitter than moving on. Being bitter is sort of fun at times. Mean snarky things come out of my mouth that make me and others laugh at Bozo and my ex. It creates a temporary albeit memorable fix. It’s a lot more effort to take the high road, be the bigger person and to let things go.

I think its important to not only teach each other that forgiveness is a process but also that forgiveness is not a permanent state of being- at least it was not for me. I have to admit I kind of expected the sun to shine down on me, angels to strum their harps and I would magically lose 30 pounds all because I had found forgiveness. Well, it didn’t and it doesn’t.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you need to be realistic with yourself in your expectations of what happens when you finally “forgive” that person. Know that you can and probably will take it back especially when they do stupid and hurtful things to you. Know that you can reverse forgiveness and then find it again. We are human and do the best we can. And it’s much harder to be on the forgiveness train than the cheater bus.
Don’t believe me? Check out Amazon and see how many books there are to help the person who was betrayed. Thousands. No so much information out there to help the cheater recover. Why? Because they had fun running about and cheating while the rest of us stayed home and raised the kids and paid the bills. I read the cheater posts online, but somehow it’s hard for me to feel empathy for their guilt that they spent the night in a five star hotel with someone else’s husband – especially when family trips were spent in the Holiday Inn.

Hmmm…See? I’m back in my reverse forgiveness bitterness mode. But thankfully I have an outlet like writing and supporting others in their recover journey. I encourage you to find a healthy one for you. Because, after all, you can recover, you can rebound or you can Bounce with Style.

Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is the host of three popular radio shows Military Mom Talk Radio, Motherhood Talk Radio and Poweredup with Beck and Franklin.

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Compassion and the Art of Gum Chewing by Sandra Beck, Bouncing with Style

Posted by mvoice on February 1, 2013 in Uncategorized |
Sandra Beck Bouncing with Style

Sandra Beck Bouncing with Style

Recently I met up with a friend who I had been seeing. Separated from his wife with three kids in college and another two in grade school, he confided in me that he was moving back in with his ex-wife because he couldnt affort the three tuitions, separate living expenses. He assured me all was well with that financial decision.

Inside I was screaming. What??? I’m a single mother sole supporting with a big fat mortgage after paying out a big fat settlement to my ex. I was furious. He went on to explain he could use that rent money to pay down his credit and to position himself better financially.

It was a sound financial decision that crushed my heart. Being the emotionally stunted computer geek that I am did I rant? Did I rave? No I just pulled out a stick of gum as one loan tear rolled down my cheek. Yes, like that Indian in the 70s commercial when they pollute his forest.

I dont want to get married. Im not looking for a committment. As I chewed that gum down to a paste I started to feel the compassion for my friend. I am free. I don’t have to take in a renter. I don’t have to go back to live with my ex. He might have to but I will never open that door – i might as well put us on a cruise on the Titanic 2.

The longer I chewed and he droned on the more I felt compassion rather than anger. Who wants to live with their ex? What kind of stress will that bring? In this economy I see my friends doing that more and more…or staying because they can’t afford to leave.

As I spit out the pulverized Trident I thought how grateful I am to be beholden to no one. To be able to make my way in the world without having to live with anyone but those people I choose. Had I not had that stick of gum who knows what thing I might have said.

Compassion and The Art of Gum Chewing is something i bet no focus group ever brought to Trident.

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The Inexhaustible Resource by Sandra Beck, Motherhood Incorporated and Military Mom Talk Radio

Posted by mvoice on October 12, 2012 in Uncategorized |
Sandra Beck - Boucing with Style: Starting Over but not from Scratch

Sandra Beck – Boucing with Style: Starting Over but not from Scratch

by Sandra Beck, Motherhood Incorporated, Military Mom Talk Radio

 

I am not an inexhaustible resource. I didn’t say these words until I turned 40. I really think that before my life collapsed I really truly thought I could do anything I set my mind to, that I would find the time in my day to do the things that were important to me and I would somehow find the ways and means to get my programs, ideas and books out there.

 

Yeah right.

 

Two premature babies later. One mom buried. Two dogs cremated. One foreclosure, two liquidated cars and to just top it off, I gained back the 25 pounds that took FOREVER to lose.

 

I used to hear people say things like “you need to take care of yourself,” “you need to put yourself first,” and “you need to be at the top of your ‘to-do’ list.”  I checked all my lists and my day planner and the only place I could find something that even related to me personally was on the bottom of my grocery list under the pseudonym “chocolate bars.”

Even that was scratched off most weeks as the scale continued to climb.

 

It was only when I fell apart after my divorce. That pitiful time where I cried every day at least once for 43 straight days. Was I depressed? Probably. Did I medicate? Probably should have but didn’t. I simply felt every feeling that was bottled up in the past 15 years and it all had to come out.  Once that storm passed, I felt drained – inside and out.

 

It was then that I had to pick up the pieces of my life and rebuild. It was then and only then that those phrases above got through my thick head. I needed to take care of myself first. My mom was dead. My husband left. There were took kids looking at me from bouncy seat and high chair respectively and they needed someone who could do this.

 

I read a book about the proper care and feeing of husbands and all I could think about what about the proper care and feeding of me? I started scribbling all my little ditties about what I needed to do and when Dr. Laura said it’s the wife’s responsibility to set her time so that she can take care of her husband and her children a light went on. I realized that it’s not my responsibility for them but for me!

 

I am not an inexhaustible resource for school functions, soccer leagues, church events, kids clothing, yard sales and whatever is on my plate this week. So every Sunday night after the kids go to bed I write down in my planner what I can do this week. Not what I need to do, not what I am guilted in to doing and not what I think I should be doing because my expectations of myself are unrealistic at best.

 

I also write down every week in my planner three things:

I am not an inexhaustible resource.

I have the same 24 hours as everyone else.

The world will not fall apart if I say no.

 

I hope you learn from me and don’t wait 40 years for this to sink in. But if you do, and you wait to 40, 50 or 60 you will be fine – just tired, cranky and overworked but fine. Because we all learn what we need to learn just at the point we need to learn it most.

 

Sandra Beck is the host of two popular radio shows, four books and the single mother of two children. She currently lives in Los Angeles on a ranch with her 4 rescued dogs. She volunteers for many national charities and struggles with saying no as demonstrated by her biography.

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Gratitude, Sink Water and a Broken Maytag by Sandra Beck, Motherhood Talk Radio

Posted by mvoice on October 4, 2012 in Uncategorized |
Sandra Beck - Boucing with Style: Starting Over but not from Scratch

Sandra Beck – Boucing with Style: Starting Over but not from Scratch

By Sandra Beck

 

It’s been hot. And not just sticky icky yucky steamy hot but fry potatoes on the hood of your mini van hot. Baking sun, hot dry desert breezes…oh wouldn’t a cold drink be nice right now?

 

What’s the puddle in front of the fridge I ask myself. Living in the desert there isn’t a puddle for 15 miles. I open the freezer everything is soupy and goupy.  My fridge smells swampy and there is a damp film on everything. It’s disgusting.  We haven’t been home for three days. Clearly the fridge hasn’t done its job either.

 

I actually rolled in my city trash can into the kitchen figuring I would have to mop the floor anyway. I tossed probably two hundred dollars of food in the trash. I call the repair company – there is only one that serves my community under the warranty and it’s going to be three days to come out and then they will need to order the part come back and install it.

 

Haha! I am resilient mom so I pull out my cooler, head to the gas station for ice.  Milk, eggs, OJ that’s all the kids and I need.   NINE DAYS LATER I am ready to shoot myself.

I am tired of hearing “I don’t want to drink sink water.”  “I’m too tired to go out to dinner I need to finish my homework.”

 

Personally I am tired of sink water too. I am tired of running down to McDonald’s to buy milk for each kid every morning or Orange Juice only to have them take three sips and have nowhere to store it. I am tired of coming home from soccer with two dirty kids who want a long cool drink and they get “warm sink water” as my 9 year old put it.

 

I thought back to when I was a kid and all we had was sink water. It came from our lake, pumped right out of the bottom. I admin that I am really spoiled now with chilled water and ice from our fridge – icy cold and filtered.  I thought of our troops in Iraq and Afghanistan. I thought of all the families in third world countries without clean water to drink. Well this is California for God’s sake and I am sitting in the stinking heat drinking warm lemonade. I’m soft.  I’m spoiled. I like my chilled drinks.

 

The doorbell rings and there he is… my hero.  The Maytag repairman. No, not Gordon Jump rest is soul but a man with a tool kit and the part I need.  Hours later I am at my kitchen table sipping my cold drink and I was full of gratitude. I realized how much I took just having cold water for granted.

 

I am thankful for the refrigerator that makes my life exponentially easier. I gave it a little blessing. I went in and thanked my air conditioner, my washer, my dryer and my oven for their service.  It’s only when these items break down that we realize just how lucky we are living in an industrialized nation with a washer so we don’t have to beat our clothes on rocks and drink the same water.  I wonder if the kids there say “I don’t want laundry water!”

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Mayonnaise Jar & Coffee-By Danee Kiernan of Bouncing with Style: Starting Over but Not From Scratch

Posted by mvoice on June 27, 2012 in Uncategorized |

 

Danee Kiernan

By Danee Kiernan     

 Life is Almost Always Good and co-author of Bouncing with Style #40

I cannot take credit for this story, but I would like to share it.

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the coffee…

 A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

 The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “yes.”

 The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

 ”Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.”

 

The golf balls are the important things-your family, your children, your health, your friends, your favorite passions, your faith – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car.

The sand is everything else-the small stuff.

If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

 Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”

 

Danee Kiernan is a writer, parent, entrepreneur and co-author of Bouncing with Style: Starting over but Not From Scratch.  She connects with others based on her experiences as a full time woman, full time mom (adoptive, birth & foster), stay at home mom, working woman and business owner.  She hopes that sharing her experiences openly will help others to find their bounce.  Danee is a powerful advocate for women’s rights, especially every woman’s right to choose her own destiny and build the life that she desires.

Danee KIernan earned a BS degree in Elementary Education with an early childhood specialization from Iowa Wesleyan College and an MBA from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Danee believes in the importance of love, family and pursuing dreams.   She makes her home in Wisconsin, where she and husband Jim, are thoroughly enjoying the experience of raising their 11 children. 

You can reach Danee Kiernan at daneekiernan@gmail.com

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Reality Sucks-By Danee Kiernan of Bouncing with Style: Starting Over but Not From Scratch

Posted by mvoice on June 20, 2012 in Uncategorized |

 

Danee Kiernan

By Danee Kiernan      

Life is Almost Always Good and co-author of Bouncing with Style #39

Like most people who watch the news, I have been following coverage of the Trayvon Martin story, the young teen inFloridawho was followed, shot and killed while walking home.

Reactions are emotional, strong and varied and everyone seems to have something to say. 

I am white.  As far as I know, I have never been racially profiled in a department store, at the airport or walking through a neighborhood.  I have not been the target of racist comments and honestly, I don’t think much about my skin color on a daily basis. 

My oldest son has an olive complexion, black hair and dark brown eyes.  He has broad shoulders and stands about 6’2”.  He is a professional and he travels on business… a lot…. 

EVERY time he goes through security at the airport, he is stopped, taken aside and searched.  At first we thought it was coincidence, but it never stopped and still continues today.  My son’s skin color results in additional security checks (I am assuming it’s not his suit or laptop).  

My daughters are Mayan and have brown skin and jet black hair.  Out in public, we have received the following comments from people who feel it is their right to comment about my children …… “What are they?”…..”What are they mixed with?”…”Are those immigrants here legally?”….”They can’t be your daughters, you’re white”….. 

My preschool son is Native American and African American.  He has brown skin, curly black hair and is completely adorable.  In public so far, people have been kind with their comments…..”He’s so cute”…..”What a handsome little boy”…..”I love his hair”…Some people, however, are less friendly.  They look and turn away uncomfortably or stare as we walk by.  I often wonder what they are thinking, but in general have the feeling that it’s not good ……

I watched the news again tonight and saw a young boy’s shocked and grieving parents.  I heard their sadness.  I felt their overwhelming pain in my heart and I went to bed with the awful realization that I am the parent of children who face the reality daily that they will be profiled, commented about and possibly murdered simply because of the color of their skin. 

Reality sucks.

Danee Kiernan is a writer, parent, entrepreneur and co-author of Bouncing with Style: Starting over but Not From Scratch.  She connects with others based on her experiences as a full time woman, full time mom (adoptive, birth & foster), stay at home mom, working woman and business owner.  She hopes that sharing her experiences openly will help others to find their bounce.  Danee is a powerful advocate for women’s rights, especially every woman’s right to choose her own destiny and build the life that she desires.

Danee Kiernan earned a BS degree in Elementary Education with an early childhood specialization from Iowa Wesleyan College and an MBA from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Danee believes in the importance of love, family and pursuing dreams.   She makes her home in Wisconsin, where she and husband Jim, are thoroughly enjoying the experience of raising their 11 children. 

You can reach Danee Kiernan at daneekiernan@gmail.com

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